I am not one to enjoy shows like the Bachelor, to be honest they usually make me feel sick to my stomach seeing so many girls fighting for the one man’s attention (hello Sydney single life). But lately I have been getting into the new Aussie version. Just quietly I’m pretty sure I am supposed to marry the Aussie bachelor. What a catch!
So I was having a time out hour of TV when I had a spiritual epiphany as one of the girls opened up to Tim about what she was looking for in a partner.
She said something along the lines of “I want someone who inspires me, who makes me a better person.”
I have been thinking the same thing after a series of uninspiring bad dates.
I was just having this conversation with a single girlfriend.
But as I was listening to this girl ramble on (who was clearly not right for him!) I wondered why we are all so desperate for inspiration outside of ourselves.
A Course in Miracles teaches that relationships are divine assignments but not because the person teaches us something (or inspires us). It is because relationships are mirrors. Every perception is a mirror of the world we created.
When there is something that is really irritating you about a person or causing friction it is usually because it is stirring up those same traits that are in you.
When you see inspiration in someone it is just a reflection of what you already have within.. We think they are drawing it out of us but really they are just reflecting such a beautiful image of what is already there.
This thought while watching The Bachelor was really triggered by Christine Hassler’s (an amazing Life/transformation coach and author) latest video blog. She was speaking about what to do when a person you care about and enjoy spending time with, suddenly disappears from your life (such as when you go on a few dates with someone, think they are amazing and inspiring then you never hear from them again – sound familiar?!)
She said instead of feeling bitter, hurt and confused be thankful that they have shown you the inspiration and beauty within you. It’s not their traits you are seeing (because if they were that amazing they wouldn’t have just disappeared without a trace!) you are seeing your own reflection! So they have actually given you the gift of realising your own beauty.
Isn’t that such a great way to look at things?
The universe will bring people into your life that can mirror the qualities you have within because how else could you see your true beauty?
If you know that the inspiration you think you are seeing in someone else is really coming from within you, then you don’t have to put so much pressure on seeking it from another person.
If there is someone in your life that you feel uninspired by, then dig a little deep and ask yourself what they are mirroring in you. Which part of yourself feels uninspired or numb. How can you light the spark within you, to feel inspired again.
The best thing about mirroring is not just it reflects our inner beauty and joy but also that it can reflect back some deep repressed feelings and some people are bought into your life for that purpose. When we explore the concept of mirroring more deeply these repressed feelings easily come to the surface to be released.
We are always going to be attracted to people who uplift and inspire us and bring out our best qualities. Just know that you already possess these qualities and you can achieve everything that you desire without having to seek out another person to draw greatness out of you.
Take a look at how amazing you are!
Now back to the Aussie Bachelor – here’s to hoping it didn’t work out with any of those girls and I am still in with a chance!