Guest Post by Tamara Living
These are tricks that work after you’ve had an argument and find yourself having difficulty moving out of that stuck, stifled, sullen place. They also work if you’re looking for creative inspiration and motivation to get that ‘I’ll do it next week’ job done. I used the same tricks the other day to tackle a case of remorse. Though my example is light in nature, it’s a real case study nonetheless…
Last week I caught myself hovering over my keyboard with meandering fingers. I’d had a week of electrifying, concerted outpouring of the written word. YIPPEE. And then suddenly, I found myself afflicted by wandering attention. I stopped for a brief lunch break and became absorbed in the latest Upworthiest newsletter, watching one you tube, and then another, and then, oh-it’s-only-3-minutes, another. And before I knew it I had turned left, right, left again, round the roundy round about, and then completely all-hope’s-gone lost in an endless labyrinth of video, experiments, entertainment, studies, reports. Finally, I happened upon something I really didn’t need or want to see and was snapped from my reverie, with a very bitter taste in my mouth.
Uggh. How did this happen? I felt as if I’d just emerged into blinding light after hours lost at Bunnings. How did I become a mindless consumer seeking a youtube high? As per the law of physics, my high followed with a crash and I was left moving with heavy mud boots through a quagmire of low energy and remorse for lost time.
And then, the echo of a voice of a close friend of mine tugged me back into the now. ‘If you’ve fallen off the band wagon, don’t waste time getting all guilty about it. Pick yourself up and jump back on’. Like a little light bulb had been flicked, I turned to a tried and true receipe to help me sharpen my attention and resolve again. A little bit of space clearing was in order.
1. Let The Light In
ACTION I opened up all the blinds and threw the windows open wide.
EFFECT That feeling of optimism that comes when a room is flooded with light and fresh air.
THEORY Some very clever science types have been finding that when our eyes are exposed to light our moods and emotional tone is directly impacted, and vampire genealogy aside, the response is all positive.
2. Aromatherapy gets all limbic
ACTION I lit some old hippy trippy incense I found in a forgotten box.
EFFECT Luckily, this was incense of quality essential oil variety, rather than the barbie fake musk variety. True to it’s delicious form, I found the zesty fragrance helped raise my spirits that little bit more.
THEORY They don’t call it aromatherapy for nada. Our clever olfactory system (being our nose smelling skills) has a direct effect on the limbic system – the emotion control headquarters located up there in the cerebrum. Releasing scents that we find uplifting is like triggering a hot wire to happy. (If you’re not into smoky incense or dreamy oils, try a floral or citrus scented facial spray – that stuff is some serious kind of delight; just make sure it’s 100% essential oil derived).
3. Tibetan singing bowl to the rescue
ACTION I pulled down my Bali-sourced, Tibetan singing bowl (go figure..?).
EFFECT Despite it’s origins, the singing part worked a treat. Using a small gong to make the bowl ‘sing’ sent a soothing, melodious keening noise through the air, and gave me something, other than brooding emotions, to focus on. I brought my attention back to now, and used my sense of hearing to slip my awareness straight back into my body and ’the here’.
THEORY So, there’s a couple of theories at play here. One, I applied the marvellous tool of mindfulness to help shift my awareness out of, the past, and into the present. Secondly, and on more of a giddy gypsy note, some of our spiritual sisters among us vouch that bad energy (in whatever form it manifested) needs a bit of help in moving it’s grumpy self along. This is where bells come in handy. Tinkling some bells about the place can help shift and break up lingering energy. This isn’t such a stretch to believe if you think about it. Any ol’ physics class will tell you that sound is produced by vibrating matter. So when we’re jangling bells about the place we’re shaking up air molecules in that space a little bit, and if that helps move ‘stuck’ energy, well then, I’mau fait’ with that.
4. Get your groove on
ACTION I put on some good music
(actually, I listened to Mozart on this occasion, but I’m just as likely to have cranked up Bob Marley, Jack (heaven) Johnson, a bit of vulnerable Birdy, all the single ladies Beyonce, gravelly Muddy Waters, or ol’ school Fleetwood Mac.. apparently my musical tastes are more varied than wide).
EFFECT Regardless, the effect was luminous. Despite ourselves, even if there’s a small part of us that wants to sit with feeling angry or sad or mad, when we open our minds to truly moving music, we simply can’t stay in a space of heaviness. We are lovingly, liberally, uplifted.
THEORY Many different areas and parts of our brains are involved in processing how we hear and respond to music. Though I’m sure none of us truly needed a study to prove it, research has verified that music has a resounding effect in lifting (or reinforcing) our mood. Music as therapy. I like it.
I ended up that day on a high, beginning a whole new project I’d been putting off for months.
Actively changing up the energy in your home or office can shift you into a place of presence, productivity, and power.
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Big hearted insights on living your inspired life.*indie author*champion for kids*health junkie*recovered creative. I’m Tamara – inspired living children’s author, mindfulness messenger, lover of the creative soul. When I’m not writing, you’ll find me outside soaking up a bit of real, where the non-sensical suddenly makes sense. I’d love to meet you – find me @ http://www.tamaraliving.com
I am a bit of a cosmetic product whore. It goes back to my days working as a Beauty Coordinator for a magazine. I had so many products (all freebies) that I had bags and bags of them cluttering my bedroom and bathroom. Most of which I never used and I had a lot more visitors in those days as everyone left with a bagful of products.
Fast forward 8 years and I still love my cosmetics but I have simplified ALOT and I think my whore status us transferred over to the health food industry rather than make up products! (I am a sucker for the latest superfood – but how many can I actually use in a smoothie at once?)
I have slowly started phasing out my chemical filled cosmetics with natural products and though hard at first, the constant rash on my eyes from using my favourite coloured Sephora eyeshadow just wasn’t worth the fashion risk. (I love Sephora but what are they putting in their eyeshadows?!)
So I sucked it up and persevered with minerals. I recently wrote a popular blog post on my favourite minerals you can read here. But to expand on this I wanted to share with you a product I adore. Now back in my magazine days I tried desperately hard to like minerals. Having problem skin I thought it was my saving grace but all the brands I tried (and back then there weren’t many) were so cakey and flakey). I also noticed on friends how there mineral make up sat in their lines around their eyes and made them look so much older. I tried mixing with moisturiser but this just didn’t cut it.
Luckily minerals have come along way but I was super dopper excited when I found a product that DOES NOT CAKE OR GO FLAKY! Yep it’s the bomb. Now when I say “found” I will be clear here, I was sent the product for free by the brand after writing my last mineral blog post. I like to be clear on that, yes brands do send me things, but I will never write about them unless I love the product (or feel it’s worth talking about)
So moving on, let me tell you why I will actually buy this product when it runs out.
It’s Adorn Cosmetics Hydrating Mineral Make up. It’s not a powder so it has the consistency of a compact foundation and is full of nourishing goodies like jojoba oil, Shea Butter and Grapefruit Extracts to prevent the the cakey look. You apply with a brush and it gives a beautiful dewy finish but if you prefer matte just use a light dusting of their mineral powder over the top.
The sound of the oils might freak you out, but lets remember something, oil fights oil, so the right type of oil won’t clog your pores. I am battling acne and cleanse my skin with oil (and it works for me). My skin has been so much clearer since using it and I have not needed concealer as the coverage is build-able and has done a great job covering my red acne scars. If my skin looks too oily then at the end of the day I dust over powder.
So that’s my rant on my new favourite foundation. They have a large range of products and I have also tried their powders, eye shadow and lipstick which are all winners. Check them out http://www.adorncosmetics.com.au
I am pretty excited to announce the launch of my first health and fitness program “Body Breakthrough”.
I am really proud of this program, because I was sick of seeing fitness programs on the market that were extreme “shredder” programs and focused so much on getting a “Bikini Body!”. Sure they may get you results in a short time but how long will those results last?
One of the most important aspects of getting fit is creating the mindset that frees you from the negative thinking that is most probably causing your weight gain. That is why I have a whole section on mindset with tips on breaking free from the old patterns of thinking. And of course there is meal plans, a nutritional guide, recipes and a 6 week exercise program for gym and outdoor/home training (print outs and videos)
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Today I wanted to share with you a little excerpt from my program…….
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There was a time in my life when I hated myself so much I wanted to hurt myself. Maybe it wasn’t so much a hatred for myself, but more so a feeling I felt because I was so trapped in my pain. I would punch myself as an only escape from what I was feeling. Some days I wanted to run a knife through my skin. I just wanted it out so badly and it would leave my body in a explosive hatred towards my being.
It makes me cry to even imagine myself in that state. It’s almost hard to believe I could have ever felt that way, and I understand it is hard for many others to understand the mindset of self-harm.
Although that hatred does not exist in this moment, tonight it all came flashing back to me as I experienced a really moving Kundalini class. Our class exercises were all centered around opening the heart and removing the blocks that keep us guarded.
Tonight we practiced the art of blessing ourselves. A very simple meditation practice but something that had me in tears. We sang along to the lyrics, “I bless myself, I bless myself, I am, I am” while we placed our hands on every inch of our body.
At first I smiled along with this meditation but soon the memory of those self-harm days came flooding back to me and it saddened me to my core, that I could have ever been anything but loving to my body.
What I also realised, was that I had been doing this very practice somewhat subconsciously for some time now in my meditations so it seemed that my soul knew what to do. When I meditate by myself sometimes the energy is so strong that my hands move over my head and move back down. The first time this happened it frightened me as my arms were moving by themselves and It was the most bizarre thing. The energy was so strong it was as though someone had hold of my arms and was moving them for me.
Of course the mind gets in the way and the fear put a stop to it. But the motion I was making was like I was anointing myself. Then last week it happened again but this time the energy went up to my face and the areas I have been having skin issues. I was in a trance-like state so didn’t even realise what I was doing, this time there was no fear and I allowed spirit to take over.
It wasn’t until this meditation tonight that I realized that I had been blessing myself and sending love and healing to the places that needed it. It always amazes me how when you allow your “higher self”, your spirit, soul or God within to take over, you will find that all the healing and love you are looking for is within you.
Leaving the class I felt a little fragile and I wondered how many other women would be healed from regularly blessing themselves. If it could stir up such emotions in me, at this stage of my life when I am feeling pretty loved and peaceful, then what would it do for those women who were really struggling in their skin.
So I wanted to share this with you to be open to practicing this meditation regularly. I know it will now be part of my meditation practice.
I want you to find yourself a quiet place, sitting cross legged or whatever is comfortable for you. Spend a few moments with your hands in prayer position in front of your heart center.
Play this song which I found on youtube but you may be able to download it somewhere. Then place your hands wherever you may feel guided. You may concentrate on one area or cover every part of your body.
At first you may feel uncomfortable or silly, but please get out of your head for a moment and just go with it. Even if you don’t feel the love, please allow yourself just a few minutes to give your body what it really needs. This will be more powerful for you then any diet, any health or fitness regime.
Blessing and much love
I sat with my arm stretched out in front of me fighting back the tears from being the pain. I had to fight my mind telling me this wasn’t normal, that I should give up, but I knew that I had to find the calm in the chaos
This was meditation.
This was life.
I have found myself back to what I believe my soul needs - Kundalini. I have had many fights with Kundalini, resisting it, and telling myself that it was bringing up too much negativity, but it is always calling my name. Now I understand why it does bring up a lot of negativity and that’s not a bad thing. Some things just need to get out and Kundalini has this incredible power to do this. It brings it up and then it heals.
The thing with Kundalini is that it forces you to find peace in the pain. Most of the meditation practices are incredibly uncomfortable. I am not talking normal yoga pose uncomfortable, I mean you may actually cry it’s that unbearable. But then it follows with such a sense of achievement.
So as I sat there holding my arm in front of me for the longest 8 minutes of my life trying to keep my mind calm I realised how far I had come.
In some ways it seems like an eternity since I wrote to you about being stripped bare and the pain I went through last year. Then other times it seems like just yesterday. All I know is I couldn’t be further away from that place. The past 6 months have been such an awakening that I pinch myself about all that I have been manifesting. It’s like I finally get it. I finally get what it feels like to feel pure bliss and joy for no reason at all.
Some people I meet now think that I have always been this way, only few in my life remember picking me up from the bathroom floor or listening to me cry with such a deep hopeless sorrow.
But in those tears my heart was breaking open and I was being stripped bare to build a completely new dimension of myself.
I often get asked how I got through it, or people I meet somehow know they can share their deepest pain and secrets with me. They always want me to tell them the miracle quick fix. All I can say is, you have to do the work and you have to be consistent.
If you do the work, if you’re consistent and show up every day, you will hit the sweet spot.
“The work” may look different for everyone. What worked for me, may not work for you.
“The work” is something that needs to be done daily, if not with every breath and is not something you only find in a weekend personal development seminar.
That’s where people give up. They get so high on a quick fix but then they can’t transfer it into their everyday moments.
One thing I know for sure is “The work” involves feeling the pain. At least in the beginning.
I think feeling the pain, allowing it, honouring it and having compassion for it, is where the miracle happens.
Everyone tries to avoid this feeling so will try techniques to run around it, but you must run straight into it.
That’s what Kundalini practice teaches you, you have to get into the pain to allow your mind to react differently towards in.
I think the reason I have come such full circle is the past year is because I actually cried for the longest time. I felt the pain more than I have ever in my life. I just let it out, I showed it to people, I stopped hiding it.
So I want to ask you how badly do you want to change your situation? Are you willing to do the work? Are you willing to commit to a practice, whatever that may look like for you? Are you ready to stop making excuses?
Eventually it doesn’t feel like work at all. In the beginning the last thing I wanted to do was meditate, or do EFT or talk to anyone about it. All the things I knew would help, but I couldn’t bear to be alone with myself or even take a look at it. But I did it anyway. Sometimes I just sat there in silence, other days I could feel a flicker of peace and light.
But now I look forward to my meditation time. I can’t get enough of it and wake up early for it! For me, a lot of my work gets done through meditation. It gives me a high that I crave. All the work I have done on myself has allowed me to stay in the present moment and have less attachment to outcomes, people or circumstances.
When you know you have work to be done, you’re not going to want to do it, you will have major resistance and your ego will give you every reason to give up, but I truly believe you are stronger than that.
I don’t want to list what doing the work means, In fact you may even hate that term “work”. Call it something else if you need to. I know the right method will come to you, just put an intention out into the universe to find something that will work for you. It will come to you! (Kundalini chased me down until I couldn’t ignore it! All my teachers and healers have come to me this way too)
Be consistent. Give yourself a chance, you are so worth showing up for.
Believing in you and much love
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Last year I posted a blog about my Kinesiology session with the extraordinary light that is Ani Neradilkova. Ani (pronounced Unyee) and I went to school together but hadn’t seen each other since until the universe literally dropped her back into my life in a very random meeting. (Don’t you love when that happens!) It was one of those moments that I knew was not just a chance meeting as the night before I had literally prayed to God to send me help and boom she appeared! She has been such a light to me in so many ways.
I really want to share Ani with the world not just because I am lucky enough to have been blessed with her friendship but because her work, combining Kinesiology, energy work and sound makes her a force to be reckoned with. This girl knows how to cut through the crap and I speak from experience in saying that she will bring it out and heal it, just like that.
We share the same vision in empowering and inspiring women so I can see the two of us doing a lot of work together in the future. For now I want you to get to know Kinesiologist and singer/songwriter Ani Neradilkova aka Anikiko.
Did you know that the best way to treat oily skin is with oil? I think in the past year I have tried everything to clear my skin after coming off the pill and the natural approach is by far winning.
What I realized was happening with most cleansers (especially those that are designed to treat acne) was that they were actually stripping my skin (even the gentle ones). My skin would then go into overdrive to repair by producing more oil leading to a vicious cycle.
I had stumbled across a blogger raving about clearing her skin using natural oils like Jojoba or castor oil so I looked into it a little more.
Turns out it has been an effective treatment for acne for many people. It also balances out the skin for those that experience sensitivity or dryness.
The method involves massaging natural oil into your skin to dissolve oil and impurities such as make up, then you remove the oil with a steaming hot towel which opens up the pores to allow a deeper cleanse of impurities. (more…)
Manifesting is such a buzz word and a lot of people are opening up to the idea that they have the power to create all that they desire but why can’t you manifest that thing you want the most?! I mean you’ve done the vision board and all that jazz but still nothing.
If that sounds familiar you must check out my video on what’s going wrong and the real secret to manifesting.
I feel so connected to the flow after a seminar with Amir Zoghi and Oren Harris. If you’re really struggling with getting into the “flow” I am sure their work will help you.
They were both amazing but I really resonated with Oren and got the chance to hang out with him afterwards. I am pretty sure he could stop traffic with his energy if he wanted to! I really was blow away by how in the zone he was, how he could communicate with his silence and just radiate perfect pure love. Check him out and connect on Facebook because connecting with that type of energy can only make radical shifts in your life.
Have an awesome week in the flow!
Believing in you
If you stumbled across a young girl that was looking sad, perhaps your daughter, granddaughter, God daughter, niece or friend…….
Would you dare tell her that she wasn’t good enough, that she was ugly, stupid or fat? Would you tell her that she would never get what she wanted, no girl wanted to be friends with her or no boy would ever ask her out.
Would you point out what needs fixing? Maybe a nose job, lose a few pounds and change her hair to get noticed?
Would you make her feel worthless and undeserving of your attention?
Or would you embrace her in your arms, tell her she was beautiful and that everything was going to be alright.
Would you tell her how she could achieve anything that she dreams, that she was a great friend and that no boy was ever worth her tears?
Would you do whatever you could to make her smile again until she was giggling and skipping away feeling on top of this world.
What if this girl was you?
What would you say to your 5 year old self?
Would you treat her the way you treat yourself now at this age? (more…)